Thank you for writing and sharing this profound story and learning. This will surely awaken people who hold on when they really should let go in order to thrive. Your authenticity and depth are refreshing. I’m so happy you’re back here sharing yourself.
There is nothing more celebrated in our society than the determination and perseverance of someone willing to fight for something to the very end. Your article points to the importance of letting things go.
Obviously, it takes loads of experience, plenty of wisdom and incredible amounts of mental toughness to let things go that we really value.
I have seen what a struggle it is for someone who is willing to put everything they have into making things right. To let it go can seem like quitting when it's really more about rejuvenation. Both with the garden and your letting go of friendships that had run their course, you gave yourself the gift of a new start and a fresh, new day.
Loved the article- very, well done!! And the photos are a great touch.
You are right on the mark Chellie. Sometimes you just have to drop somebody who is just making you miserable. If a food made you sick, you would stop eating it. If your so called friends are hurting you, it is time to drop them. Good for you for recognizing this.
Yes Miriam, that’s is spot on! Maybe they should be considered allergens so I stay away. Great perspective. Thank you for the support and for reading this.
Bravo to you for doing something that is never easy and almost always painful. It is especially difficult when the person is a friend who contacts you on a regular basis, and you have to tell that person that you don't want to converse anymore. I find now that I am much more picky about the people that I let into my life, but I still have a couple of friends from the past whom I still see but meditate before I talk to them. In the end I have never regretted dropping friends who were really toxic, but I sometimes still hold them in my heart and hope that maybe something will soften their hearts. And perhaps someday your friend will realize that all humans deserve dignity and change his attitude.
Thank you, Rosemary. I know we share similar experiences of toxic friends and I am so sorry because I know the pain and you are such a good human, kind and sincere. We must never doubt ourselves because of others behaviors. I love that you meditate! Kudos to you!!
How many of us have similar stories to tell, but perhaps not with the certainty and pathos that is delivered here.. We have all been ‘bugged ‘by events or people and have all heard the mantra ‘move on from negative people or events’. Luckily my encounters have been few over my life. But in certain cases I have let go, dropped the rope and moved on. And never regretted it!
When I say drop the rope, I am not suggesting there was a luxury yacht on the other end but there were prized friends and people I once respected. Maybe with British stoicism I have realized that it is time to move on. I can appreciate the good times we shared but lower the draw bridge to isolate myself with comfort and commitment. Some of my decisions are 40 years old and despite repeated requests for compromise, I have not relented.
This essay was beautifully embellished with detailed professional images. Beauty is not necessarily accompanied by goodness. Why do we fail to see the ‘assassin’ before it is too late.
There was an undisclosed call to action in this beautiful piece. Reflect on your own life and enumerate the sensitive occasions that you might reflect on. If you need help, spend time in your own garden. with temperatures in the high 90s these days, there are plenty of causes out there for events that will spoil your garden over the next few days. But search out the assassins.
A good time to say goodbye to pests wherever they may lurk.
Thank you Chellie, for allowing me to reflect and still feel very comfortable in my decisions.
Wow! Thank you, Martin for so much support. I write hoping my words and experiences will touch others and bring a lens to their own personal dialogues. I am so pleased knowing this piece uncovered so much for you. Yes, the call to action was succinctly and beautifully put. We must not let the bugs lurk. Thank you, Martin.
Tim, thank you for this affirming response. It means so much that you share your friendship and support in such an authentic way. I appreciate you, my friend.
You were in the right!
Thank you!
Thank you for writing and sharing this profound story and learning. This will surely awaken people who hold on when they really should let go in order to thrive. Your authenticity and depth are refreshing. I’m so happy you’re back here sharing yourself.
There is nothing more celebrated in our society than the determination and perseverance of someone willing to fight for something to the very end. Your article points to the importance of letting things go.
Obviously, it takes loads of experience, plenty of wisdom and incredible amounts of mental toughness to let things go that we really value.
I have seen what a struggle it is for someone who is willing to put everything they have into making things right. To let it go can seem like quitting when it's really more about rejuvenation. Both with the garden and your letting go of friendships that had run their course, you gave yourself the gift of a new start and a fresh, new day.
Loved the article- very, well done!! And the photos are a great touch.
Tim
You are right on the mark Chellie. Sometimes you just have to drop somebody who is just making you miserable. If a food made you sick, you would stop eating it. If your so called friends are hurting you, it is time to drop them. Good for you for recognizing this.
Yes Miriam, that’s is spot on! Maybe they should be considered allergens so I stay away. Great perspective. Thank you for the support and for reading this.
Bravo to you for doing something that is never easy and almost always painful. It is especially difficult when the person is a friend who contacts you on a regular basis, and you have to tell that person that you don't want to converse anymore. I find now that I am much more picky about the people that I let into my life, but I still have a couple of friends from the past whom I still see but meditate before I talk to them. In the end I have never regretted dropping friends who were really toxic, but I sometimes still hold them in my heart and hope that maybe something will soften their hearts. And perhaps someday your friend will realize that all humans deserve dignity and change his attitude.
Thank you, Rosemary. I know we share similar experiences of toxic friends and I am so sorry because I know the pain and you are such a good human, kind and sincere. We must never doubt ourselves because of others behaviors. I love that you meditate! Kudos to you!!
How many of us have similar stories to tell, but perhaps not with the certainty and pathos that is delivered here.. We have all been ‘bugged ‘by events or people and have all heard the mantra ‘move on from negative people or events’. Luckily my encounters have been few over my life. But in certain cases I have let go, dropped the rope and moved on. And never regretted it!
When I say drop the rope, I am not suggesting there was a luxury yacht on the other end but there were prized friends and people I once respected. Maybe with British stoicism I have realized that it is time to move on. I can appreciate the good times we shared but lower the draw bridge to isolate myself with comfort and commitment. Some of my decisions are 40 years old and despite repeated requests for compromise, I have not relented.
This essay was beautifully embellished with detailed professional images. Beauty is not necessarily accompanied by goodness. Why do we fail to see the ‘assassin’ before it is too late.
There was an undisclosed call to action in this beautiful piece. Reflect on your own life and enumerate the sensitive occasions that you might reflect on. If you need help, spend time in your own garden. with temperatures in the high 90s these days, there are plenty of causes out there for events that will spoil your garden over the next few days. But search out the assassins.
A good time to say goodbye to pests wherever they may lurk.
Thank you Chellie, for allowing me to reflect and still feel very comfortable in my decisions.
Wow! Thank you, Martin for so much support. I write hoping my words and experiences will touch others and bring a lens to their own personal dialogues. I am so pleased knowing this piece uncovered so much for you. Yes, the call to action was succinctly and beautifully put. We must not let the bugs lurk. Thank you, Martin.
Tim, thank you for this affirming response. It means so much that you share your friendship and support in such an authentic way. I appreciate you, my friend.